I used to think that my job as a parent was to always put Josh first. If he needed me to be somewhere I would go. If he asked for something I would give it to him. If he fell down, I would pick him up.
This is what all the parenting books tell us right?
I remember one time when I was working with my own personal development coach a few years ago when Josh was about 4 when we were doing an exercise about time management and productivity and scheduling in work days v free days. I realized that I had never had a truly FREE day. I had productivity days for my business, meeting days for networking, scheduled in gym or running time and my evening and I simply had no ME days. I had no time for self-reflection, to do activities alone or do things I loved to do before Josh was here.
My coach at the time asked me why did I not schedule time to do things just for me?
My answer: I was afraid as I didn’t want to be seen as being a ‘bad mum’.
I love to work and that made us money so I could justify that. I love to run and it was good for me so I could justify this time too as it was something I told myself I should do. I would even go to conferences for one of two days as a way to get away but I would be working with people the whole time. I felt I could justify being away from my son if it was work related or related to our future.
But these were not ME activities that provide self-care. Caring for my body or well-being. These were things I needed to do to provide or ‘should’ do for my health but they did not help me to reflect on me or provide me with centeredness or connectivity. To just be. To be still.
How could I grow or be more if there was no space in my life to even think about new things let alone do them? How could I be patient with my growing child if I couldn’t even sit still for a minute in my own busy life?
I realized I was denying big chunks of my own personality – of me – and my busyness was making me more stressed and unhealthy.
We are living in unprecedented times of stress, we have an excess of information and expectations, demands, responsibilities, multiple jobs, family demands, you name it.
And more often than not, to shelter ourselves away from the monotony we turn to unhealthy habits — (name your vice!)
But it should be the other way around: the more cornered we get by elements that can throw us off balance, the more committed to our health and well-being we must be.
Health is synonymous with Success, in any shape or form or version. Healthy people thrive in every aspect of their lives — it is the foundation of our greatest achievements, of confidence, of limitless creativity and of longstanding relationships.
When you feel good, you not only create a force field of positivity but you become a magnet for the things you wish to manifest in your life.
I love nothing more than talking a walk in a natural place of beauty like a shoreline or beside a river and bring my journal. I love to take a yoga class or meditation class or go to the movies. I love to get massages, to read or get reflexology.
What I have come to realise is that when I make healthy choices and care for myself – through ‘ME Time’ or self-care and invest in my health and well being, it de-clutters my mind and makes space for the people, projects and places that are important to me. It makes me a healthier mum. It makes me a happier mum and therefore a better mum.
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